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EP. 197 Ten Things to Never Say to Your Wife

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In this episode, we will explore the importance of effective communication in marriage, emphasizing how our words can impact our spouse's heart and spirit. The Bible teaches us the power of the tongue and how our speech can either build up or tear down. We will share ten things that should never be said to your wife and provide biblically accurate and encouraging alternatives to foster a strong and loving relationship.

1. "You never" or "You always" statements: Proverbs 15:1 reminds us that "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Instead of making exaggerated blanket statements, let us practice patience and understanding. Address specific issues without attacking your wife's character.

2. "Why can't you be like ___." Each person is uniquely created by God, and comparisons can be hurtful. Ephesians 4:32 encourages us to be kind and compassionate, embracing our differences and celebrating individual strengths.

3. "Calm down." As James 1:19 advises, "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry." Instead of dismissing your wife's emotions, actively listen and offer your support to understand her perspective better.

4. "We should get a divorce." God's plan for marriage is one of commitment and unity. As stated in Malachi 2:16, "For the Lord, the God of Israel, says that He hates divorce." Instead of threatening divorce, seek reconciliation and work together to overcome challenges.

5. "That's a woman's job." In Ephesians 5:21, husbands and wives are called to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Help and support each other in all tasks, understanding that both partners contribute to the family's well-being.

6. "You are a narcissist." In Colossians 3:12-13, we are urged to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, and patience, bearing with one another in love. Avoid using labels that may harm your spouse, but instead, discuss concerns with love and understanding.

7. "You are a terrible mother." or "I wish you were more like my mother." Proverbs 31:28-29 reminds us to praise and honor our wives for their hard work and dedication. Encourage your wife in her motherhood journey, affirm her efforts, and build her up with loving words.

8. "What do you do all day?" Acknowledge the value of your wife's work at home. In 1 Thessalonians 5:11, we are encouraged to build each other up. Take time to appreciate her efforts and actively participate in family responsibilities.

9. "You're making a big deal out of nothing." As Romans 12:15 teaches, "Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep." Show empathy and understanding for your wife's feelings, even if you may not fully grasp their significance.

10. "Why don't you control your kids." In Psalm 127:3, we are reminded that children are a heritage from the Lord. Instead of placing blame, work together as a team to parent your children with love and discipline, following God's guidance.

Throughout the Bible, we find the importance of uplifting and affirming one another. Here are some encouraging statements to strengthen your bond:

  1. "I'm so thankful you married me."

  2. "I'm lucky to have you in my life."

  3. "My life is better because of you."

  4. "You always take great care of our family."

  5. "You are the best."

  6. "You're beautiful."

  7. "How did I ever get you?"

  8. "I'm proud to be your spouse."

  9. "Thank you for the meal."

  10. "I choose you every day."

  11. "You're an amazing mother."

  12. "I'm sorry."

Remember, our words have a profound impact on our marriage. By communicating with love, respect, and encouragement, we can create a thriving and God-honoring relationship. Let's strive to follow the biblical principles of communication, supporting and uplifting our spouses each day.

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