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EP. 218 The Challenge of Saying "I Need Help"

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Welcome back to the Hope Rescue Podcast, where we're delving into the complexities of communication within relationships. In this fifth installment of our series on difficult yet crucial conversations, we confront the challenge of uttering perhaps one of the most daunting phrases: "I need help."

Our anchor verse for this week, Galatians 6:1-5, emphasizes the importance of bearing one another's burdens with gentleness and humility. It reminds us of our interconnectedness and the necessity of supporting each other through life's trials and tribulations.

"Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. For each will have to bear his own load." - Galatians 6:1-5

Why is it so hard to ask for help?

1. We don't want to be an inconvenience: Asking for help can feel like burdening others with our problems, disrupting their lives, or imposing on their time and resources. This fear of inconveniencing others often leads us to suffer in silence rather than reaching out for support.

2. We don't want to be judged: There's a pervasive fear of judgment that accompanies admitting vulnerability and seeking assistance. We worry about being perceived as weak, incapable, or inadequate, fearing the scrutiny and criticism of others.

3. We don't want to be labeled as incompetent: Asking for help can evoke feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, as it may be interpreted as an admission of our perceived shortcomings or inability to handle challenges independently.

4. We don't want to be exposed as having a problem: Revealing our struggles and vulnerabilities can feel like stripping away our facade of strength and competence, leaving us feeling exposed and vulnerable to judgment or rejection.

5. We don't believe anyone will be able to help us: Doubt and skepticism about the effectiveness of seeking help can deter us from reaching out, as we may question whether anyone possesses the capacity or expertise to truly address our needs.

6. We don't think we even need help: Denial or minimization of our challenges can prevent us from recognizing the necessity of seeking assistance, leading us to downplay or ignore our own struggles until they escalate into crisis.

7. We fear having to change: Asking for help often necessitates acknowledging our need for growth or change, which can be daunting and unsettling. Fear of the unknown or resistance to stepping outside our comfort zones may hinder our willingness to seek assistance.

We want to reassure you that acknowledging your need for help, particularly within a relationship, could be the beginning of a relationship that you've always wanted. Embracing vulnerability and reaching out for assistance not only strengthens relationships but also facilitates personal growth and resilience.

Join us next week as we continue our exploration of the difficult but necessary things to say. Thank you for tuning in!

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