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EP. 127 The Relationship Between Social Anxiety & Fear


To View the Video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ufQNsf-1V6A


SHOW NOTES


Welcome to a new week of the Hope Rescue Podcast. We are in a series right now breaking down some of the concepts in Tim’s new book “Breathe.” If you are interested in purchasing the book, follow this link: https://www.hoperescue.org/product-page/breathe


Tim begins the podcast by discussing the 21/90 rule. The 21/90 rule states that it takes 21 days to make a habit and 90 days to make it a permanent lifestyle change. A habit change changes a practice or routine that we follow. For example, changing the way we eat, how much we drink, or trying to give something up like cigarettes or pornography. A lifestyle change changes the direction of our lives. For example, the choice to not use animal products or begin living a minimalist lifestyle, or choosing a healthy lifestyle. To sum it up, a habit is limited to a specific routine or an activity, whereas a lifestyle choice encompasses all aspects of our life. If you want to change the direction of your life, it's going to take 90 days, but if you simply want to change a habit it will take a minimum of 21 days.


How Does Fear Impact Our Lives?


The first way fear impacts our lives is in a social manner. Tim shares that church attendance now versus before the pandemic hit is only at 25-40 percent. The pandemic has created so much fear that people are avoiding social settings that they wouldn’t have thought twice about attending before.


Another way fear affects us socially is when we are trying to hide our flaws. Sometimes we become so afraid of exposure that it prevents us from socializing. This causes us to become reclusive and inauthentic, and it prevents us from feeling safe in social settings. We may believe that if people really knew us, they wouldn’t like us anymore.


Another way fear affects us socially is through competition and comparison. Tim jokingly says, “I used to like tennis until I realized everyone else was better than me.” While he’s only joking, there is some truth in the thesis of this statement. Sometimes when we are drowning in comparison, it prevents us from participating in social activities we love.


If we allow fear to control our social lives, we will fail to fulfill God's purpose for our lives. If you are struggling with this specific fear, Tim encourages you to trust God and his commands. Two commands God gives us in scripture are “fear not” and “be thankful.”


Isaiah 41:10 says, "fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."


First Thessalonians 5:16-18 says, "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”


People can also experience a fear of success. The fear of success keeps us from trying and pursuing our goals. For example, we may fear that we aren't worthy of success. We may also be afraid that when we arrive at success, we won’t be able to handle the responsibility that comes with it. These are both forms of self-sabotage because our fear prevents us from trying to be successful in the first place. Join us next week as we discuss the last two ways fear impacts our lives.


QUOTES


“If we allow fear to control our social lives, we will fail to fulfill God's purpose for our lives.” -Kimberly


REFERENCED SCRIPTURE


Isaiah 41:10 says "fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand."


1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 "Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”



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