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SHOW NOTES
Hi friends! Welcome back to another week of the Hope Rescue Podcast! If this is your first time joining us, welcome and thanks for checking us out! This week we are wrapping up our 8 episode series on marriage by sharing Tim and Kimberly’s last 3 tips out of 30! If you haven’t heard the other episodes in the series, make sure you go back to episode 33 to hear all the episodes from the beginning of our series! Let’s dive into this week’s conversation!
28/30: Give respect to your spouse. Show your spouse the value you place on who they are and who they are becoming. Sometimes in a marriage, a couple can grow or change at different rates, and that is okay. Respect the growth and honor your spouse as they go through each season of life. Sometimes we may outgrow our spouse and other times we might be outgrown by our spouse. It is important to not take our spouse's growth personally, and we have to remember to respect them whether they are ahead or behind us. If you feel like you are growing at a quicker rate than your spouse, bring him or her along on your journey. If you feel like you are growing in spiritual knowledge, share what you learn with your spouse. Don’t make personal growth a competition between you and your spouse. Come alongside one another, encourage one another, and respect each other through seasons of growth and change.
29/30: Know the difference between independence, dependence, and interdependence. Independence in a marriage can be incredibly damaging because it tells your spouse, “I don’t need you” or “I could live without you.” Dependence in a marriage is just the opposite which implies that you are nothing without your spouse. Dependent partners tend to suck the life out of their spouses because of their constant need of affection, attention, or reassurance. Tim suggests reading the book Inside Out by Dr. Larry Crabb, which we have linked below. Lastly, interdependence within a marriage is when each spouse equally needs the other. Interdependence involves a balance of self and others within the relationship, recognizing that both partners are working to be present and meet each other's physical and emotional needs in appropriate and meaningful ways. Tim says, “It's good to feel needed and it's also good to need. Interdependence within your marriage is the perfect balance of both.”
30/30: Focus on your spouse alone. It is so easy to fall into the trap of comparison, especially with our marriages. We compare our marriages to our friends, our family members, or our parents’ marriages. We have to understand that the dynamic between us and our spouse is unique to only us, and no one else is experiencing exactly what we are experiencing. It is unfair to compare our marriage to other marriages, because every couple is different and experiencing life differently. Your marriage is as unique as a fingerprint. It is repeated over and over again in scripture that God’s design for marriage is to leave, cleave, and become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Matthew 19:5 says, “and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?” Mark 10:7 says, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife.” Other individuals may have influence in your marriage such as your close friends or your parents, but they should not have power within your marriage. Your marriage is between you and your spouse, and no one else should make decisions for your marriage. Tim says, “Leave your friends out of your marriage. Leave your parents out of your marriage. Live your relationship for your spouse.”
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QUOTES
“Don’t make personal growth a competition between you and your spouse. Come alongside one another, encourage one another, and respect each other through seasons of growth and change.” -Kimberly
“It's good to feel needed and it's also good to need. Interdependence within your marriage is the perfect balance of both.” -Tim
“Leave your friends out of your marriage. Leave your parents out of your marriage. Live your relationship for your spouse.” -Tim
REFERENCED SCRIPTURE
Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Ephesians 5:31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
Matthew 19:5 “and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?”
Mark 10:7 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife”
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