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EP. 214 The Art of Saying 'I'm Sorry'

Updated: Apr 20


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Welcome to Episode 214 of the Hope Rescue Podcast, where we're kicking off a new series on the hard things to say. This week, we're diving into the challenging topic of "I'm sorry."


When it comes to offering apologies, it's crucial to avoid excuses. Benjamin Franklin wisely said, "Never ruin an apology with an excuse." Excuses dilute the sincerity of an apology and hinder genuine reconciliation.


Why is is so difficult to apologize?


  1. Pride: Our natural inclination is to avoid admitting when we're wrong, making it difficult to apologize.

  2. Fear: Fear of the reaction or perception of others can paralyze us, making it challenging to apologize.

  3. Shame avoidance: Deep shame about our actions may prevent us from admitting our wrongs, but apologies can free us from this bondage.

  4. Accountability avoidance: Taking accountability for our actions and the consequences can be daunting, but it's essential for genuine apology.

  5. Loss of power: Apologizing may seem like relinquishing power, but it actually restores respect and strengthens relationships.

  6. Loss of control: Stubbornness and pride can prevent us from apologizing, leading to further conflict and estrangement.

  7. Lack of care for the offended party: Sometimes, we fail to apologize because we lack empathy or respect for the person we've wronged.


It's crucial to understand that forgiveness doesn't automatically lead to reconciliation. If someone repeatedly apologizes for the same issue without genuine change, they might have abusive or toxic behavior patterns, making reconciliation unlikely. Remember, forgiveness is a personal choice that doesn't always necessitate reconciling with the offender.


Now, let's delve into the three essential components of a sincere apology:


3 Essentials to an Apology:


  1. State the offense without qualification: Be specific and honest about what you did wrong, without making excuses or minimizing the impact of your actions. Transparency is key to rebuilding trust.

  2. Take responsibility for your actions without accusation: Own up to your mistakes without shifting blame onto others. Express genuine remorse for any harm caused and avoid making the offended party feel like they're being attacked or blamed.

  3. Have a clear plan for change: Apologize sincerely, ask for forgiveness, and outline concrete steps to prevent similar mistakes in the future. Demonstrating a commitment to positive change is essential for rebuilding trust and repairing the relationship.


By adhering to these essentials, you can offer a heartfelt apology that promotes healing, fosters reconciliation, and strengthens relationships.



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