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EP. 199 Ten Phrases to Never Say to Your Children

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Parenting is an incredible journey, one that requires strength and wisdom. As Ephesians wisely advises, "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4). In this episode, we'll explore ten phrases that we should avoid saying to our children.

1. "Don't talk to me like that."

Instead, say, "I will listen to you when your voice is calm like mine." Leading by example is crucial, and maintaining composure can help our children learn effective communication.

2. "You're okay, you're fine."

Avoid dismissing their feelings. Instead, offer love and support while helping them understand and process their emotions.

3. "I need to go on a diet or lose weight."

Shift the conversation to focus on improving overall health rather than body image. Encourage positive habits grounded in 1 Timothy 4:8, highlighting the significance of godliness over appearance.

4. "Why can't you be more like your sibling?"

Avoid comparing your children, as each is a unique individual. Celebrate their distinct gifts and accomplishments.

5. "We can't afford that."

Redirect the conversation toward family priorities and the importance of saving. Use this as an opportunity to teach them about financial responsibility.

6. "Let me help you."

While assistance is well-intentioned, it's essential to allow children to learn from their mistakes and gain independence. Respect their autonomy, intervening only when invited.

7. "You make me so mad."

Instead, explain the impact of their actions on your emotions. Avoid placing the entire burden of your feelings on them.

8. "You're just like your father or mother."

When making comparisons, focus on their positive qualities to encourage self-esteem and confidence.

9. "You drive me crazy."

Avoid making your child feel responsible for your emotions. Maintain emotional balance, especially when dealing with challenging behavior.

10. "You can become anything you want to become."

Guide your children toward their natural talents and passions rather than creating unrealistic fantasies. Encourage them to pursue their dreams grounded in reality.

As parents, our words have a profound impact on our children's development. By avoiding these ten phrases and communicating with love and respect, we can foster their self-esteem and emotional well-being. Thank you for joining us in this episode, and remember, effective communication is key to nurturing confident and resilient children.

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