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EP. 139 The 4 Ingredients of a Healthy Relationship


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SHOW NOTES


Welcome to a new week of the Hope Rescue Podcast. This week, Tim is back on the show with Kimberly, and they break down Ephesians 5:18-21 which acts as a perfect recipe for healthy relationships. Keep reading to find out what the ingredients are.


Ephesians 5:18-21 says, "And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ."


Tim begins the conversation by saying, “The most counterintuitive thing you can do in our fleshly, fallen world is to submit to one another.” It’s not intuitive for a sinful, fallen man to submit to other people. But that is exactly what God’s Word calls us to do in our relationships. Tim and Kimberly explain that when you dissect Ephesians 5:18-21, it’s really a recipe for healthy, God-honoring relationships. These concepts can be applied to every relationship in your life, not just spousal relationships. The four concepts we want to highlight this week are: communicating, singing, giving thanks, and submitting. When you have been filled by the Holy Spirit, you will do these four things:


  1. “Addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs.” You can find your voice in active listening and loving speech. Kimberly often says that if you want to be heard, it's crucial to speak in a way it can be easily received. You can shout your thoughts and feelings from a mountaintop, but it won't be truly heard unless you're communicating in a way that is loving. When we don’t communicate with love or stop communicating entirely, it creates a barrier instead of a bridge.

  2. “Singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart.” Your voice is found in a positive attitude that creates approachability. The demeanor you have and the atmosphere you create determines your approachability. If you are filled by the Holy Spirit, you will rejoice and be filled with joy.

  3. “Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Speaking words of gratitude gives your partner a voice. If you are grateful for your partner, it will make him or her want to draw closer to you. If you are complaining, it will push your partner away. Thankfulness is a choice for all of us, no matter your personality type or natural bent.

  4. “Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Your voice can be found in the clear plan to submit to each other and this mutuality will give equal value in the relationship. When we submit to someone, we tell them "your needs matter to me." One of the fruits of the spirit is "meekness" which does not equate to weakness. Meekness has to do with humility. When we display meekness, we're not embarrassed to submit to others because we understand we have been filled by the Holy Spirit. .


QUOTES


“The most counterintuitive thing you can do in our fleshly, fallen world is to submit to one another.” -Tim


REFERENCED SCRIPTURE


Ephesians 5:18-21 says, "And do not get drunk with wine, for that is debauchery, but be filled with the Spirit, addressing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody to the Lord with your heart, giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ."



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