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Welcome back to the Hope Rescue Podcast. After taking a break for a few weeks, we are back and excited to share with you how to recapture your voice. Keep reading to find out what that means!
What does it mean to “find your voice,” and how does someone actually do that? As we run into different life experiences and develop relationships with others, it can be possible to lose our voice. Maybe your spouse doesn’t value your opinion. Maybe your parents ignored you as a child. Maybe your boss shuts down every idea you bring to the table. Experiences such as these can cause a person to lose their voice, or feel like even if they speak, no one is listening.
Kimberly explains that when she and her first husband got married, she felt confident in who she was and what she was called to do. As time went on, she says she began to fade. Because of the mistreatment she experienced, she began to lose her voice until she became completely voiceless.
When we are loved, we feel safe. When we lose our voice, we feel fear. First Corinthians 13:4-7 says, “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Are your relationships loving the way that scripture describes love? Patient. Kind. Understanding. Accepting. Easygoing. Does your spouse feel love or fear in your relationship? We are going to go through some questions to ask yourself about your relationship, and if you answer yes to them, you and your spouse need to evaluate if one of you has lost your voice along the way.
Is there impatience in your relationship? Is your spouse patient with you and are you patient with your spouse? Impatience can shut a person down.
Are you or your spouse unkind or mean-spirited? Tim explains that kindness in a relationship is like an open door, but unkindness is like a closed door or a wall. You cannot have a healthy relationship with a closed door between you and your spouse.
Are you or your spouse envious or boastful? These traits normally stem from insecurity, and insecure people commonly lead with control.
If you are stealing your spouse’s voice, you may be doing it inadvertently but that doesn’t make it okay. Whether it’s intentional or not, the intimacy of your relationship with your spouse is at stake. A person can only be silenced for so long. If you personally have lost your voice, speak up. Assert yourself. Set non-negotiables in your marriage, because a person can only go so long without a voice.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”