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Welcome to episode 107 of the Hope Rescue Podcast. This week we are continuing our series discussing the four essential principles to a healthy relationship. We are talking about relationships like marriage, parenting, friendships, and even with employees and coworkers. Last week we discussed in-depth the second principle: rejoicing. Keep reading to hear this week’s discussion.
Tim and Kimberly pull their essential principles to a healthy relationship from Ephesians 5:18-20 which says, "Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” The four essential principles to a healthy relationship are:
4. Mutual Submission
Last week we discussed rejoicing, but this week we are going to talk about gratitude.
Kimberly explains that when we are pervasively thankful for our spouse, we won’t be looking for something else to fill that void. If we are thankful for our relationships, it is almost impossible for division to be created between us and another person. If we are endlessly thankful for our spouses, no one will be able to come between us because we know why we love them. Gratitude anchors us in our relationships and keeps us from drifting apart.
Living a life waiting for the world to cooperate with our desires will ultimately lead to a life of misery. Thankfulness takes the power away from living under the circumstances. We need to live over the circumstances and be victorious. We cannot change the world around us, but we can change our response to the world.
Complaining is the opposite of being grateful. Being thankful allows us to celebrate the moment and anchors us in the present. Tim explains where complaining often originates and how to overcome being a complainer.
NE + O x C = Baggage
Negative experiences + Ownership x Complaining = Baggage
When we take ownership of a negative experience and repeatedly complain about what we’ve experienced, we create baggage that destroys the relationships around us. Healthy people don’t identify as their negative experiences. They are able to not take ownership of that negative experience. The amount of times we complain drives us back into our negative experience. We empower our negative experiences and the person who abused us when we complain. When we are thankful instead, we celebrate the now. We are able to release the past and be thankful for the present.
NE x T = F
Negative Experience x Thankfulness = Freedom
When we take our negative experiences and endlessly find reasons to be thankful, we free ourselves from our difficult pasts. Thankful people are constantly finding value instead of fault. They look for good in everything and in everyone. They look for God’s work in the good and the bad. They learn from their negative experiences and are not destroyed by them. Let us all focus this week on being grateful for our relationships and experiences. Join us next week as we wrap up our series on relationships!
“Gratitude anchors us in our relationships and keeps us from drifting apart.” -Kimberly
“Living a life waiting for the world to cooperate with our desires will ultimately lead to a life of misery.” -Tim
Ephesians 5:18-20 "Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.”